Do you keep wondering whether what happened was really “bad enough” to explain why you feel this way?
Emotional abuse can leave you questioning yourself long after the conversation, conflict, or relationship has ended. You may replay what was said, wonder if you misunderstood, or feel embarrassed that someone else’s words still have so much power over you. You may even understand why the other person behaved the way they did and still struggle to admit how deeply their behavior affected you.
I provide emotional abuse recovery therapy that focuses on what happened to your sense of trust in yourself. You do not have to prove the relationship was abusive before you are allowed to talk about its impact. Together, we can look at the patterns clearly and begin separating your own perspective from the version of reality you were repeatedly asked to accept.
Have you become an unofficial full-time analyst of someone else’s moods?
You may know their triggers, defenses, history, and likely reaction to a conversation before you know what you are feeling yourself. Relationships shaped by manipulation, blame, control, or chronic invalidation can train you to keep your attention on the other person. I can help you turn some of that attention back toward your own experience, recognize the patterns that keep pulling you in, and rebuild trust in what you know.
I offer therapy for people recovering from narcissistic and emotionally harmful relationships without making the work about diagnosing someone I have never met. The more important questions are what happened to you inside the relationship, why certain patterns still pull you back in, and what you need in order to trust your own experience again.
Do you know the boundary you need but feel guilty the moment you try to hold it?
A boundary can make perfect sense on paper and still feel awful in your body when someone is disappointed. If you learned that being a “good” family member meant staying available, smoothing things over, or explaining yourself until everyone agreed, guilt can show up the second you try something different. We can look at where that guilt comes from and build limits that protect your capacity while still feeling like you.
In family boundary therapy with me, the work goes deeper than learning how to say no. You can explore why someone else’s disappointment feels so difficult to tolerate and why protecting your own capacity may still feel like doing something wrong. The goal is not harder boundaries for the sake of having them. It is finding limits you can actually live with.
Are you considering no contact, already there, or wondering whether less contact might be what you need?
Distance from family can bring relief, grief, guilt, and a surprising amount of mental paperwork. You can miss someone and still feel better with less contact. You can feel sure about a boundary on Tuesday and question the whole thing again by Friday. I do not treat reconciliation or estrangement as the finish line. We can look at what contact actually does to you, what distance brings up, and what boundary fits your life right now.
I work with adults navigating no contact and low contact with family without treating estrangement or reconciliation as the goal. You can explore what contact costs you, what distance brings up, and whether your current boundary still reflects what you need. You are allowed to reconsider a boundary without proving that it was wrong in the first place.
Have you spent years being told that you feel too much, think too much, or take things too personally?
You probably notice the tone shift before the sentence is even over. Conflict can stay with you long after everyone else has moved on, and a loud room, packed week, or emotionally intense conversation can take more out of you than people realize. I’m highly sensitive too, so this is familiar territory for me. Our work can help you understand your limits earlier, make room for the recovery you actually need, and feel more confident about how you respond to what you notice.
I provide therapy for Highly Sensitive People and identify as highly sensitive myself. I will not treat sensitivity as the flaw therapy needs to remove. Instead, you can understand how your sensitivity interacts with boundaries, relationships, overwhelm, and self-trust so you have more choice in how you respond without having to become less of yourself.
Do you know what everyone else needs before you know what you need?
If your brain can draft a five-paragraph explanation for a simple “no,” we should probably talk. People-pleasing often becomes such an automatic way of keeping things smooth that you notice everyone else’s comfort before you notice your own capacity. We can look at why another person’s disappointment feels so urgent and help you respond with care while leaving their reaction where it belongs.
I help adults work through people-pleasing and over-responsibility by exploring why someone else’s discomfort became something you learned to prevent. The goal is not to become less caring. It is to stop treating care as an obligation to continually override yourself. You can be considerate without making every reaction around you your responsibility.
Do you want therapy where your identity does not have to become the first thing you explain or defend?
Therapy should leave room for your identity without turning every session into a seminar about it. You may be here to talk about family, relationships, work, anxiety, grief, boundaries, identity, or something completely unrelated. I offer LGBTQIA+ affirming therapy where the full context of your life matters and no single part of who you are has to explain every problem you bring in.
I provide LGBTQIA+ affirming therapy that allows identity to matter without reducing every problem to sexuality or gender. Therapy can hold the ways identity, family, culture, relationships, and the broader world intersect while still making room for everything else that makes you you.
Are you tired of having a personal decision treated like an invitation for everyone else’s opinion?
Being childfree tends to attract an impressive amount of unsolicited commentary. You may feel completely settled in your choice and still be tired of questions, predictions, family disappointment, or having other people treat your future like a group discussion. I’m childfree myself, so the basic premise does not need explaining here. We can focus on what this choice actually touches in your life, including relationships, belonging, dating, family pressure, aging, and the future you are building.
I provide childfree-affirming therapy and am childfree myself. You will not be expected to defend why you do not want children or treated as though parenthood is the healthier conclusion that therapy should eventually lead you toward. Instead, therapy can focus on the actual emotional and relational experiences that come with building a life outside a deeply ingrained expectation.
Are you exhausted from having every gathering, appointment, or relationship turn into another negotiation about risk?
COVID-conscious living can make an ordinary dinner, appointment, or family gathering feel like a negotiation nobody asked for. You may be carrying the risk calculation, the relationship tension, the grief over what changed, and the exhaustion of being the person who still has to bring it up. I remain COVID-conscious myself. Therapy gives us room to look honestly at your choices and their emotional cost while keeping your actual circumstances, health, relationships, and values in the picture.
I provide COVID-conscious therapy and remain COVID-conscious myself. Your precautions will not automatically be reframed as an anxiety problem that therapy needs to remove. You can talk honestly about risk, isolation, grief, anger, relationships, and uncertainty while still examining what is and is not working for you.
Does part of you know exactly what you want while another part is terrified of what will happen if you choose it?
One part of you can be completely certain about a boundary at 10 a.m. and another part can be drafting an apology by lunch. IFS gives us a way to understand those shifts with curiosity instead of treating them like proof that you cannot make up your mind. I’m an IFS Institute Level 2 trained psychologist, and I use parts work to help you understand what each reaction is protecting so you have more room to choose what happens next.
I am an IFS Institute Level 2 trained psychologist who uses IFS and parts work throughout my practice. Together, you can become curious about what each reaction is trying to protect and why it learned to work so hard. The goal is not to fight yourself into behaving differently. It is to create enough understanding that you have more choice.
Does something about the relationship feel wrong even though you struggle to explain exactly what it is?
The hardest relationships are often difficult precisely because they are not terrible all the time. There can be real affection, good memories, and qualities you genuinely love while something in the dynamic still leaves you anxious, careful, or smaller than you used to feel. In therapy, we can shift some of the attention away from endlessly analyzing the other person and look at what happens to you inside the relationship, what keeps repeating, and what would make the relationship more sustainable for you.
I work with adults navigating difficult and toxic relationships without beginning with a predetermined answer about what the relationship should become. Therapy gives you room to stop analyzing only the other person and start looking at what the dynamic is costing you, what keeps repeating, and what would need to change for the relationship to feel sustainable.
Do you become a different version of yourself around your parents no matter how much work you have done on yourself?
You can be fully grown, competent, and perfectly capable of handling your life, then one conversation with a parent somehow makes you feel 14 again. Family has a way of finding the old buttons. We can look at the role you learned to play, what gets activated around your parents, and how you want to show up now. Your adulthood gets to be shaped by your own choices, even if your parent never fully understands them.
I help adult children of emotionally immature parents understand the role they learned to play and why that role can be so difficult to put down. Therapy can help you stop measuring your adulthood by whether your parent finally understands you and begin deciding what kind of relationship is actually possible now.
Does your family treat behavior that hurts you as though it is completely normal?
When criticism is called honesty and guilt gets passed off as love, it can become hard to tell what is actually healthy and what is simply familiar. Family roles and old rules have a way of pulling you back into the same position, even when you function very differently everywhere else in your life. We can look at those patterns clearly and figure out what participation in your family can realistically look like for you now.
I provide therapy for adults navigating toxic family dynamics with room to name what is happening without exaggerating or minimizing it. Together, you can look at the roles, alliances, expectations, and patterns that keep pulling you back into the same place and decide what participation in the family can realistically look like without requiring you to disappear inside it.
Do you sometimes realize you were overwhelmed only after you have already hit your limit?
Sometimes your system sends the “we’re done here” memo before your brain catches up. Noise, social interaction, conflict, competing demands, and other people’s emotions can pile up quietly until suddenly everything feels like too much. Therapy can help you get better at noticing your own early signs, understanding what tends to push you past capacity, and making room for recovery before you are completely depleted.
I help highly sensitive adults understand emotional and sensory overwhelm without treating their capacity like a character flaw. Therapy can help you notice the signals earlier, understand what contributes to overload, and make adjustments before your system has to force you to stop. You should not have to completely fall apart before your need for rest becomes legitimate.
Does your mind keep searching for the one answer that will finally make you feel certain?
If your mind believes the answer is one more round of thinking away, a decision can stay on the committee agenda for days. You might replay a conversation, prepare for every possible response, or keep searching for certainty long after the thinking has stopped helping. We can get curious about what the worry is trying to prevent and help you make decisions with a little more room around the uncertainty.
I work with anxiety and overthinking by getting curious about what the worry is trying to accomplish. Rather than fighting your thoughts or telling you to simply think more positively, therapy can help you understand the fear underneath them and develop more room to make decisions even when certainty is not available.
Does one mistake feel much more serious when you are the person who made it?
Perfectionism can turn a normal mistake into an internal performance review nobody asked for. You might redo work that was already good, struggle to relax while something is unfinished, or notice every tiny flaw in yourself before anyone else has even looked. We can explore what those standards are doing for you, where they become punishing, and how to care about doing things well without making every outcome a referendum on your worth.
I help adults work through perfectionism and self-criticism by looking at what those standards are protecting. Maybe getting things right became connected to belonging, safety, approval, or avoiding criticism. Understanding that matters because the goal is not to make you careless. It is to loosen the belief that being imperfect makes you less worthy of respect or care.
Do you walk into a room and immediately know who is upset before anyone says a word?
You can walk into a room, clock the tension in about three seconds, and somehow end up feeling responsible for fixing it. Being perceptive can make you very aware of what other people are feeling, but carrying every mood home with you gets exhausting. Therapy can help you separate noticing from owning so you can stay connected to people without becoming the emotional cleanup crew.
I help highly sensitive adults work with emotional absorption by separating awareness from responsibility. You do not need to become less perceptive or caring. You can notice what someone else is feeling without automatically carrying it home with you or making it your job to change.
Has your life changed while everyone around you seems to be waiting for the old version of you to come back?
Chronic illness can change much more than your physical capacity. It can affect work, relationships, identity, plans, independence, and the assumptions you once made about your future. You may also find yourself repeatedly having to explain limitations other people cannot see.
I support adults living with long COVID, chronic illness, and ongoing health uncertainty by making room for the emotional reality without demanding optimism or acceptance on someone else’s timeline. You can grieve what changed, feel angry about what has been lost, and begin figuring out what life asks of you now without turning the experience into a lesson.
Do you know what you want until you imagine how everyone else is going to feel about it?
A choice about your health, relationship, family, identity, work, or future may feel clear until guilt, fear, expectations, or the possibility of disappointing someone enters the picture. Suddenly, the question becomes less about what you want and more about whether you are allowed to want it.
I work with adults navigating identity, values, and major life decisions by helping you separate your own voice from the pressure surrounding it. Therapy will not hand you the correct answer. It gives you room to understand what each option means so the choice can actually belong to you.
Have you ever felt like belonging requires you to make yourself easier for other people to understand?
Maybe you soften what you believe, explain your choices repeatedly, hide a part of yourself, or participate in things that do not feel right because losing connection feels worse. Over time, belonging can start to feel less like being known and more like being tolerated as long as you do not ask too much of anyone.
I help adults navigating belonging and life outside conventional expectations explore what genuine connection would look like without constant self-editing. The goal is not to stop caring what other people think. It is to stop making acceptance dependent on abandoning yourself.
Do you wish you could talk about what is happening at the barn without spending half the session explaining why any of it matters?
For equestrians, horses are far more than just recreation. They’re a way of life. They shape routine, identity, finances, friendships, confidence, responsibility, and the place where you may feel most like yourself. When something changes there, the emotional impact can reach far beyond riding.
I provide therapy for equestrians and am an equestrian myself. You will not need to translate barn culture or convince me that a horse-related experience can carry enormous emotional weight. Therapy can focus on what is actually happening—whether that is grief, pressure, burnout, conflict, fear, or a changing relationship with riding.
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